Breaking up with a significant other is tough and moving out is often the next step. These two events can be very stressful. We’re here to help you plan how to move out after a breakup. Let’s break down each stage: before, during, and after the move.
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Before the Move
Planning ahead is crucial for a smooth move after a breakup. Let’s explore everything you should do before officially moving out.
Find Temporary Housing
Not everyone sees a breakup coming. If that’s your situation, your first priority should be finding temporary housing. This can vary for everyone, but some options include:
- Staying with Family
- Staying with Friends
- Booking a Hotel
- Booking an Airbnb
Pack Your Essential and Valuable Items
The next step in moving out after a breaking up with your partner is packing your essential items—things you’ll need daily until you officially move out. Be sure to include:
- Clothing
- Toiletries
- Purse and Wallet
You may also want to pack valuable items, especially if the breakup didn’t end on good terms. This will help ensure your valuables remain safe and in your possession. Some valuable items you might consider packing are:
- Computer/Electronics
- Passport and Other Important Documents
- Fine Jewelry or Watches
- Sentimental Items
- Vehicles You Solely Own
Talk With Your Ex
Talking to your ex can be challenging, but it’s a crucial part of moving out after breaking up. Try to stay polite and direct when discussing the next steps. There are several details you’ll need to work out together to ensure a smooth move.
Splitting up Shared Possession
If you lived with your ex for a while, you likely have shared possessions. Now is the time to remember what you paid for and stand up for yourself.
In addition to claiming your purchases, you’ll need to decide who gets the items you both paid for. A simple approach is to take turns choosing what each of you will keep.
Discuss Custody of Children and Pets
Custody agreements are something you may have to figure out if you and your ex had any children or pets together. If you’re in this situation it can be very tricky and stressful. Children’s custody agreements and pet custody agreements can vary from state to state, so be sure to familiarize yourself with the specific laws in your area.
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Figure Out Shared Financials and Bills
Another important aspect to address with your ex is how to handle shared finances and bills. Some examples include:
- Rent
- Utility Bills
- Streaming Services
- Shared Bank Accounts and Cards
When it comes to rent and utilities, it’s common courtesy to contribute for the month you’re moving out. Shared bank accounts are typically divided, and joint credit cards should be canceled. It’s also a good idea to cancel shared streaming services and set up your own accounts.
Inform About Your Moving Timeline
One of the final things to discuss with your ex is your moving timeline. Inform them of your official move-out date and provide specific dates and times. Be clear about how long you’ll need for packing and moving, whether it’s a single day or multiple.
You might also ask your ex to be away from the house while you’re moving out, as it could emotionally complicate the process.
Plan Your Move
Planning your move after a breakup is crucial. Here are some key things to consider during the process:
- Create a Moving Budget
- Create a Moving Timeline
- Get Packing Materials
- Hire a Moving Company
- Find Moving Transport
Have People to Help You Move
Having your ex help on your moving day might be awkward, so it’s a good idea to hire or enlist others for assistance.
When hiring movers, you have options: traditional movers can handle all aspects of your move, while labor-only movers focus on heavy lifting and can be more cost-effective.
If you’re looking for a more budget-friendly option, consider asking family and friends for help instead of hiring movers.
Renting a Moving Truck
Depending on the moving company you hire, you might need to rent a moving truck. A properly sized truck can be very beneficial for a quick move. If you only have one day to clear out your old home, having a truck that fits all your belongings can streamline the process.
Renting the right-sized vehicle also helps save money by avoiding wasted space and reducing the need for multiple trips, which can cut down on gas expenses.
Renting a Storage Unit
While not everyone may have this issue, some people may not have an area to store all their belongings right away. Especially if you are only in a temporary housing situation.
There are various storage options available, so the right choice depends on your needs. Whether you prefer an indoor or outdoor unit, one close by, or a shippable option, there are plenty of storage solutions for you.
During the Move
Now we’ve covered what to do before your move, let’s focus on the actual move-out day. Here are the key things to remember when moving out after a breakup.
Stick to Your Moving Timeline
One of the most essential tasks on move-out day is sticking to your moving timeline. It’s important to respect both your schedule and your ex’s. Stick to the packing and moving dates you agreed upon to ensure you leave their home in a timely manner.
Clean Your Space
In addition to packing and moving out your belongings, it’s important to leave the space in good condition. A little cleaning can go a long way in ensuring the area looks nice when you move out.
If you and your ex are both on the lease, you might be eligible for a portion of the security deposit back. To maximize your chances of getting your share, do simple tasks like vacuuming, dusting, mopping, and filling nail holes. These small efforts can make a significant difference.
Ensure Everything is Done
Once all your items are packed and moved out, it’s time to tackle the final steps of moving out after a breakup. Here are some last tasks to complete before you leave:
- Return your key
- Notify your landlord
- Return/leave any items that are your ex’s
- Ensure all your items are with you
- Make sure all your shared bills and financials have a nearing end date
After the Move
You’ve planned your move and successfully moved out—what’s next? Now it’s time to focus on the steps that follow your move.
Find Permanent Housing
If you haven’t already, start searching for permanent housing. If you prefer not to live alone, this is also the time to find a roommate.
Renting a house or an apartment can help your life start to feel normal again.
Focus on Yourself
With the move behind you, it’s time to focus on yourself. Self-care is crucial after such a stressful event. Between the breakup and moving, you likely haven’t had much time to do so.
Take some time to spoil yourself—you deserve it! Embrace this fresh start and make the most of it.
Conclusion
Moving out after breaking up with your significant other can be challenging. Not only are you dealing with the emotional impact of the breakup, but you also face the stress of moving. A moving company can help ease the burden.
To ensure a smoother transition, plan ahead: find temporary housing, communicate with your ex, hire movers, rent a moving truck, and consider a storage unit if needed. On moving day, stick to your timeline and make sure everything is completed. Once the move is done, focus on finding a new place to live and prioritize self-care.
Moving out after a breakup is tough, but you’ve got this! Take it step by step, and do your part to make your move go smoothly.
FAQ
This depends on your situation and personal preference. Typically, people move out quickly after breaking up. While you might move your belongings later, it’s important to discuss and create a timeline with your ex that works for both of you.
When moving out, make sure to clean the areas you used frequently. If you’re retrieving items from a space, it’s a good idea to quickly clean the area. This is not only courteous but can also help you recover your portion of the security deposit.
Whether you hire movers or enlist friends and family is up to your personal preference and the level of help you need. However, movers provide professional assistance that can make your move quicker and smoother. Having support of any kind can help ensure a more efficient moving process.
Jessica is a students at the University of Northern Iowa. She is majoring in English Education with a creative writing minor. In her free time she loves to read books of every genre, write short stories, and spend time with friends. In the future she hopes to share her love for reading and writing with her future students.
